I recently had a birthday, but not a significant one. For whatever reason I constantly catch myself thinking… is this outfit age appropriate? This thought then brings up many other age associated notions. I feel like I was robbed of my 20’s. All I did in my 20’s was go to school, work, go to school again, work again, and continue on this never ending pursuit to become an architect. This pursuit will come to an end and that end is near.
Now I am in my 30s (and I have grey hair). I’m finally starting to figure things out, I’m finally starting to become somewhat useful in society (to some degree and at times this notion is debatable). So how do you dress when you are in your 30s and you are a professional and you have a blog and you’ve lived somewhat of an unconventional life by most people’s standards? I don’t fucking know! is all that I can come up with. If this is my answer then I have no idea why this is consuming my thoughts. It’s also not that I care what other people think, it’s more of a personal reflection on myself, from myself.
My style has definitely evolved from my 20s to 30s. It has even changed in this short time that we have started NEAT (so thanks for sticking with us!!). However, I feel I am getting closer to my signature ‘look’. Which can be a direct reflection of this whole coming of age phenomenon that is real, trust me. Again, I’m finally starting to figure out my personal style and my wardrobe is slowly evolving into this magnificent thing it was always meant to be. I would argue that my style is helping me understand the kind of woman I am meant to be and am becoming.
Jill posted this article by Stacey London that I thought was beautifully done. I actually read the whole thing, which I rarely do because I get bored or distracted very easily. Stacey London literally said everything that has been on my mind recently, which must also be on Jill’s ;). Stacey speaks about the evolution of her style after What Not To Wear, her mother and the role she played in her life, the fact that she is 47 and living this totally unconventional life compared to people her age, blazing her own path, defining success in her own right and many more antidotes people near their 30s, or just entering the club should read. This is one of my favourites, for a little teaser, ‘at 47, I’m finding my trouser pockets are filled with fewer and fewer fucks.’ Amen sista.
So what has changed since my 20s in my personal style? Like Stacey I would say I give fewer fucks (which is shocking because I already gave so little fucks before!!). I am also definitely more conscious of where my clothing comes from. I pay close attention to how the clothing is made, where the clothing was made and the craftsmanship of the product. I am very drawn to structural pieces with bold colours or prints, or anything that makes some sort of statement. I love local artisans, makers and designers. I like hearing their story, I like supporting their goods and I like promoting people within our own country. And then I like sharing them with you all.
All this being said it is fitting that I’m wearing a Canadian made and designed dress and accessories. Phallic accessories, but do you think I give an eff? I don’t. I think you are open-mouth staring at me because you want to be me, not because you think I look like a freak show. I would not have worn this in my 20s and I might not wear this in 5 years. BUT I’m not fully convinced that ‘dressing your age’ is a thing. It’s not as if I think this outfit isn’t appropriate for my 20s. It’s more that it doesn’t accurately represent who I was, thus my style, in my 20s. It’s more of an evolution of style and capturing that moment in time of who you were. Join me on this evolution of style, it will not disappoint, that’s a promise.
Photos by Suzanne Stewart from NEAT